army wives who only claim to be dating their soldiers

[Rachel Hills]

So i have a few friends who have been married to their husbands for either a few months or a few years now but they don't claime that they're married. They say the reason is because they want to wait to have an actual wedding (they did the courthouse thing) and don't want their friends knowing yet. How do you feel about it? I feel really weird because lately these wives haven't been acting like wives. They have started taking pictures ( photo shots to be models) and at first the pictures were okay, now the pictures are like rated R. I just don't think a wife should act that way. Should i tell them how i feel or let them do their thing? The way i have always seen it is the way you act effects your husband and i sure wouldn't want people saying bad things about my husband.

[AmericanAngel]

I would keep out of it and keep my distance. Because something like this could back fire and cause alot of drama. Its there life and at the end of the day you shouldnt lose sleep over what other people do even if they are your friends. In my mind it is not my right to judge others and what they do in there marriages. If they want to act like slags let them. But I would avoid them because you don't want to get a repuation because of them or for being around them if there acting in a manor you wouldnt want to. However saying this even though you don't think it is right there realtionships with there husbands could be differnt and there husband and how they treat or act each other while together or apart. x x

[jazz( jasmine )]

yup keep out of it cause its not gonna affect your marriage... and if you think that it will then create some distance between you and these wives that dont claim their hubby

[Kaitlyn Holohan]

We did the court house thing and are having an actual wedding in June when hes home from deployment. We tell everyone we're married. We always have, we just say we are having our marriage blessed by God, so its just as important. I don't like the idea of saying they are " dating". I value the word marriage. But i wouldn't bother with saying anything. People can pretty much say what they want, and they might end up mad at you about it. But like the others, I would separate myself from those who talk like that.

[Sandi]

I was married in a court house and we want a church wedding on our 5th wedding anniversary but we do tell everyone we are married b/c we are proud to be together!!! Whatever people do in their marriages is their business and I would just stay away from that.

[Mrs.Singh]

I would advise you to just keep your comments to yourself, simply because one it shouldn't matter to you, hey well you got your man, and you're happy right?! Ok, so just keep living YOUR life, I mean after all you probably wouldn't like the fact of someone else def not another woman trying to tell you how to run your life or marriage..right?! We're all grown, and we should all be accountable for our very own actions, but I do agree with you on that last part...whatever you do, good or bad it does reflect on your other half in someway..ya know")

[Rachel Hills]

So i never did say anything to the girls but a bunch of other single soldiers saw their pictures and commented about them. The girls thought it was me that started it, but it wasn't I stayed outta it like you all said but i still lost some friendships. Whatever though, as long as im with my husband at the end of the night that's all that matters!

[Casey Arrington]

LOL that's a new one. Pretty sad IMO. Oh well, to each their own.

[Danielle Jones]

Wow. My hubby and I did the courthouse thing in may and we are having a wedding next yr. Only immediate fam know we are maaried but we always act like we are married and our friends wonder why we are so committed lol. But leave it alone dont get in that mess. Eventually they will get thats coming to them for lying and showing out.

[Marie.]

I would understand if they're saying that they're dating just to keep it away from family and friends since they didnt have a "real" wedding and sometimes if your family finds out, that too can cause a lot of drama. And if they're modeling as in, that's their actual job then I dont see a problem with it. But if its just at home with their own camera rated R posting it on MySpace type of deal then that's totally different.

I personally dont really care what other people do with their lives, at the end of the day their life hasnt effected mine so why even worry. Their actions are on them.

[Silver Xeno]

Unless it could get them in trouble with their commands somehow...(and I don't know that it would unless they were posting details of their husband's as well)...I would just let it go. Or if you are hearing rumors regarding the husbands...I [personally] would tell the husband. "People are saying [this] about you...and since I care about you, I wanted you to know."

[Lisa Pinkney]

i agree with u , the way these women are acting can be harmful against there husband and his relationship and military career, honestly women who say they r just dating there husband i truly believe they only married there husband for the money cause i've notcied alot of people have done that, its sad really, but doing r rated photos and modeling thats just out there , who really would wanna take those kinds of pics and i know for one i wouldnt and i dont think my husband would either unless they were for his eyes only. its ur choice whatu truly think u should do , but if it was me i dont think i could hang out with girls who is like that.

[Audre]

Thats just wrong especially if their husbands are away on deployment. It doesnt have to be an actual ceremony in a fancy church dress and all... Once the preacher says until death do you part and you say your "I do's " your married no matter where you are. Its sick to think they arnt supporting their husbands and from what i think their acting like they are single. I think you should be honest and tell them how you feel.