ok just wondering is this normal or am i just a nut ball ??

[jazz( jasmine )]

ok soooo im wondering if im the only person who thinks telling people multiple times what you want for your bday or christmas or whatever is kinda rude...
dont get me wrong im not crazy i think its totally cool to let people know what kinda stuff you like ( if asked ) but i think its rude to tell them specifically what you want unless they ask you flat out ...

this is where me and my hubs differ and its kinda getting on my nerves.. first off he told me he wanted a big screen tv for fathers day ( im only 13 weeks pregnant ) and or a playstation 3 and its not like he only told me once he put ads out on the table and everytime i saw him on his phone he was searching tvs and what not .. i mean i would be trying to get all kiss before bed and he would bring up this damn tv.. he has done this with boots and a number of things and gets dissapointed in you when you dont give him exactly what he wants for a present.


i on the other hand was raised that its not polite to go around demanding things from people just because you have a bday or something coming up and to take any gift you get with humility because after all its a GIFT and not somehting that people HAVE to give you ..
well my husbands bday is on tuesday and now he is sending me emails of golf clubs ... which is a month he wont even use .. his demanding ways kinda turn me off to getting him gifts or antything
our 1 year anniversary just past and because he was getting on my nerves regarding what he wanted present wise i didnt get him anything not even a card..

so what do yall think is it ok for a person to deman a specific gift rather than just hint ( when asked ) what they would like ... am i the only person who finds that annoying ?

[CJ]

I don't think you're nuts at all. I like to surprise people and it kinda ruins it if you know that they expect something in particular. Also, what if something comes up and you can't get it? Then you have to know that they were disappointed. I personally drop hints all year so that my husband has an idea of what I like/want/need. I give a whole lot of options and not crazy expensive ones either. Even when I'm flat out asked I just say "whatever you like"; I'm honestly more into giving though cause I just love the expression that comes with the opening of the gift. :-) Overall, I think its the thought that counts. What are you leaning towards getting him?

[TryingPatience]

I tell my mom all the time, "I know what I want for _____" That's only because if I wait until she asks, I draw a blank. She never buys me what I ask for though, so I may need to stop doing that. I tell my husband the same thing. I don't get obsessed with it like your husband does though. That's way over the top in my opinion.

[Shanna]

I have and never would tell someone what I want for Christmas or any other holiday! That takes the whole surprise out of the holiday!! I don't think you are nuts at all Jazz because if you are, I am joining you at the "Loony"bin!! I feel the same way! LOL Anyhow, it is very rude to tell someone what you want. People should either wait to be asked or just wait for the darn day and take what you get!!!

[Amy Elizabeth]

I think you're normal, I'd smack my husband if he pulled that crap. Luckily, he doesn't. I don't think it's socially acceptable, or nice to ask for something specifically. Why doesn't he just buy it for himself if he wants it so badly?

[Brittany Allen]

me and my husband were always broke before he joined the army so we never got either one anything. we saved up for the kids. so neither one of us ever expect anything from each other